Comments on: Love is…? http://teddy-o-ted.com/blog/2009/01/11/love-is/ Design of a minimalist, content of a maximalist Mon, 06 Feb 2012 12:52:48 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: teddY http://teddy-o-ted.com/blog/2009/01/11/love-is/#comment-64273 teddY Sat, 17 Jan 2009 12:19:26 +0000 http://www.teddy-o-ted.com/?p=2846#comment-64273 @WanCing: I second you - sometimes there are some things that I find it particularly hard to tell my best friends. And sometimes I feel really guilty and rotten inside if they helped me out a lot because I feel that I don't deserve their attention and time. It's a dissonance - a part of you feels happy that you have friends who actually care for you and the other part blames you for creating trouble for your friends. @WanCing: I second you – sometimes there are some things that I find it particularly hard to tell my best friends. And sometimes I feel really guilty and rotten inside if they helped me out a lot because I feel that I don’t deserve their attention and time. It’s a dissonance – a part of you feels happy that you have friends who actually care for you and the other part blames you for creating trouble for your friends.

]]> By: WanCing http://teddy-o-ted.com/blog/2009/01/11/love-is/#comment-64233 WanCing Fri, 16 Jan 2009 14:22:54 +0000 http://www.teddy-o-ted.com/?p=2846#comment-64233 You're absolutely right, there is no difference between them then, but after something that I'd gone through, it seems to have become really hard for me to address someone as my "best/intimate friend", not that i don't have good friends, they all are really kind, helpful and generous to me, it's just that i have some difficulty to speak out those words. I wonder if my contemporaries ever face the same problem as mine. Well, I think all I can do is none other than appreciating them. At least, I won't regret or guilty taking them for granted if one day we aren't really good/close friends anymore. You’re absolutely right, there is no difference between them then,
but after something that I’d gone through,
it seems to have become really hard for me to address someone as my “best/intimate friend”, not that i don’t have good friends, they all are really kind, helpful and generous to me, it’s just that i have some difficulty to speak out those words. I wonder if my contemporaries ever face the same problem as mine.

Well, I think all I can do is none other than appreciating them. At least, I won’t regret or guilty taking them for granted if one day we aren’t really good/close friends anymore.

]]> By: teddY http://teddy-o-ted.com/blog/2009/01/11/love-is/#comment-64189 teddY Thu, 15 Jan 2009 15:53:13 +0000 http://www.teddy-o-ted.com/?p=2846#comment-64189 @Dayna: That's exactly what struck me in the head - when I was reading my really, really ancient posts I couldn't help but let out a chuckle when I read about my experienced with weird teachers and my bad English (it's a little better now), but gradually as I read newer posts the personal touch in them started to disappear, slowly, but surely. For now I'm determined to make this blog personal again. Of course I will still blog about other stuff, no worries. The more you look for something, the harder you will find it. It's a popular Chinese saying that goes like that (not a literal translation, but the rough idea is there), and I think it's quite true! If someone goes out there acting like a 120% desperado, he will only resort to instant gratification instead of settling for a proper relationship. There's no fast lane when it comes to love. Rev.iew.me is indeed a great place but the growth of the community is slowing nowadays, and new additions don't get as much reviews as the older ones. I got a little tired of the celebrity layouts, but other than that, there are many great and inspiration sites in there! @Dayna: That’s exactly what struck me in the head – when I was reading my really, really ancient posts I couldn’t help but let out a chuckle when I read about my experienced with weird teachers and my bad English (it’s a little better now), but gradually as I read newer posts the personal touch in them started to disappear, slowly, but surely. For now I’m determined to make this blog personal again. Of course I will still blog about other stuff, no worries.

The more you look for something, the harder you will find it. It’s a popular Chinese saying that goes like that (not a literal translation, but the rough idea is there), and I think it’s quite true! If someone goes out there acting like a 120% desperado, he will only resort to instant gratification instead of settling for a proper relationship. There’s no fast lane when it comes to love.

Rev.iew.me is indeed a great place but the growth of the community is slowing nowadays, and new additions don’t get as much reviews as the older ones. I got a little tired of the celebrity layouts, but other than that, there are many great and inspiration sites in there!

]]> By: teddY http://teddy-o-ted.com/blog/2009/01/11/love-is/#comment-64188 teddY Thu, 15 Jan 2009 15:48:23 +0000 http://www.teddy-o-ted.com/?p=2846#comment-64188 @Wendy: Oh... and I bet he's glad that he was patient and waited :) you're such a blessing for him. Lucky Rin, teehee. Love comes along by chance, and of course we have to make it happen by jumping at it, but being too desperate will only make you land a bad choice. You're right! @Wendy: Oh… and I bet he’s glad that he was patient and waited :) you’re such a blessing for him. Lucky Rin, teehee. Love comes along by chance, and of course we have to make it happen by jumping at it, but being too desperate will only make you land a bad choice. You’re right!

]]> By: teddY http://teddy-o-ted.com/blog/2009/01/11/love-is/#comment-64187 teddY Thu, 15 Jan 2009 15:43:52 +0000 http://www.teddy-o-ted.com/?p=2846#comment-64187 @Eli James: Looks like this post is going to be a good start on my move, a rip off of what HP calls "It's personal again". Nice guys finish last. Quite true! I get bullied so much that I'm accustomed to being disadvantaged (not as in relationship, since I'm not out there actively competing with other desperate males what are eager to mate). Your past experiences with love. I hope they didn't leave a sour taste in your mouth *pats pats* I hope that you'll be able to find your soul mate soon... good luck! @Eli James: Looks like this post is going to be a good start on my move, a rip off of what HP calls “It’s personal again”. Nice guys finish last. Quite true! I get bullied so much that I’m accustomed to being disadvantaged (not as in relationship, since I’m not out there actively competing with other desperate males what are eager to mate).

Your past experiences with love. I hope they didn’t leave a sour taste in your mouth *pats pats* I hope that you’ll be able to find your soul mate soon… good luck!

]]> By: teddY http://teddy-o-ted.com/blog/2009/01/11/love-is/#comment-64186 teddY Thu, 15 Jan 2009 15:40:37 +0000 http://www.teddy-o-ted.com/?p=2846#comment-64186 @Aki: Exactly. When my friend changed his relationship status he got like 100+ responses either 1) congratulating him, 2) asking him why they weren't told in advance (usually BFFs or whatnots) or 3) have no idea what happened and wanted to know more. Aren't these that kind of define us as humans? A dangerous mix of jealousy, curiousity and selfishness. Oh I'm too pessimistic I guess. Anyway, if I'm in a relationship next time I wouldn't change my status. It feels as if I'm telling the whole world that I've finally got somebody. Meh! @Aki: Exactly. When my friend changed his relationship status he got like 100+ responses either 1) congratulating him, 2) asking him why they weren’t told in advance (usually BFFs or whatnots) or 3) have no idea what happened and wanted to know more. Aren’t these that kind of define us as humans? A dangerous mix of jealousy, curiousity and selfishness. Oh I’m too pessimistic I guess.

Anyway, if I’m in a relationship next time I wouldn’t change my status. It feels as if I’m telling the whole world that I’ve finally got somebody. Meh!

]]> By: Aki http://teddy-o-ted.com/blog/2009/01/11/love-is/#comment-64184 Aki Thu, 15 Jan 2009 14:08:34 +0000 http://www.teddy-o-ted.com/?p=2846#comment-64184 Of course I won't mind you checking my archives! It's the internet :P Everything online is free (well, kinda). LOL at the Facebook reference. If you change it, people would ask, "Who? When?" Etc etc. People should MYOB sometimes XD <abbr><em>Check out Aki’s latest blog post » <a href="http://akinodorama.org/2009/01/14/erm/" rel="nofollow">Erm…</a></em></abbr> Of course I won’t mind you checking my archives! It’s the internet :P Everything online is free (well, kinda).
LOL at the Facebook reference. If you change it, people would ask, “Who? When?” Etc etc. People should MYOB sometimes XD

Check out Aki’s latest blog post » Erm…

]]> By: Dayna http://teddy-o-ted.com/blog/2009/01/11/love-is/#comment-64183 Dayna Thu, 15 Jan 2009 06:49:03 +0000 http://www.teddy-o-ted.com/?p=2846#comment-64183 You should blog more about yourself so that when you read back your posts years down the road, you will smile thinking of the good old days. :) I always believe in "don't be determined to look for a partner, let fate brings the partner to you". Not everyone might agree with that though. But it's the same as if you keep looking for something, you wouldn't find it. But when you aren't looking for it, it will appear. I'm sure you will find your special someone who appreciates you in the future. :) Oh and rev.iew.me is a good place to get some comments about your site. I wish I had more time to review other sites there. It provides the opportunities to explore some new sites which I've never been before. <abbr><em>Check out Dayna’s latest blog post » <a href="http://amourchaleur.com/archives/2009/01/14/my-happiness-timeline/" rel="nofollow">My Happiness Timeline</a></em></abbr> You should blog more about yourself so that when you read back your posts years down the road, you will smile thinking of the good old days. :)

I always believe in “don’t be determined to look for a partner, let fate brings the partner to you”. Not everyone might agree with that though. But it’s the same as if you keep looking for something, you wouldn’t find it. But when you aren’t looking for it, it will appear. I’m sure you will find your special someone who appreciates you in the future. :)

Oh and rev.iew.me is a good place to get some comments about your site. I wish I had more time to review other sites there. It provides the opportunities to explore some new sites which I’ve never been before.

Check out Dayna’s latest blog post » My Happiness Timeline

]]> By: Wendy http://teddy-o-ted.com/blog/2009/01/11/love-is/#comment-64182 Wendy Thu, 15 Jan 2009 05:36:54 +0000 http://www.teddy-o-ted.com/?p=2846#comment-64182 Don't worry, my husband only met me when he was 25 haha. Love is not something you wait for...otherwise they won't call it falling in love. It is just something you stumbled on along the way ;) <abbr><em>Check out Wendy’s latest blog post » <a href="http://rin-wendy.com/delete-10-friend-in-your-facebook-and-get-a-free-whopper" rel="nofollow">Delete 10 friends in your Facebook and get a FREE Whopper!</a></em></abbr> Don’t worry, my husband only met me when he was 25 haha. Love is not something you wait for…otherwise they won’t call it falling in love. It is just something you stumbled on along the way ;)

Check out Wendy’s latest blog post » Delete 10 friends in your Facebook and get a FREE Whopper!

]]> By: Eli James http://teddy-o-ted.com/blog/2009/01/11/love-is/#comment-64138 Eli James Wed, 14 Jan 2009 17:44:44 +0000 http://www.teddy-o-ted.com/?p=2846#comment-64138 I'm struck dumb at this post (and yeah, personal IS good!) Maybe it's the old nice guys finish last rule? Or the fact that us geeks are liked as friends and friends only? I don't know. What you said really struck a chord with me, Teddy. My past experiences are similar to yours, and right now I'm stuck between <em>meh</em> I don't need one, and <em>ohgodwhysoemptyinside?</em> <abbr><em>Check out Eli James’s latest blog post » <a href="http://mochaspot.blogspot.com/2009/01/photolog-playing-with-light.html" rel="nofollow">Photolog: Playing With Light</a></em></abbr> I’m struck dumb at this post (and yeah, personal IS good!) Maybe it’s the old nice guys finish last rule? Or the fact that us geeks are liked as friends and friends only?

I don’t know. What you said really struck a chord with me, Teddy. My past experiences are similar to yours, and right now I’m stuck between meh I don’t need one, and ohgodwhysoemptyinside?

Check out Eli James’s latest blog post » Photolog: Playing With Light

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